Many couples going through divorce choose not to go the route of mediationbased on
a plethora of misconceptions. If you are going through a divorce in the state of Idaho, please take some time to learn the facts and displace the myths before you decide that mediation is not for you.

MEDIATION MYTH #1

Men Fare Better than Women

It is a common misconception that men fare better than women in mediation. For one reason or another, some people believe that women know less about the marital finances and are also more likely to settle on certain issues in an effort to keep the peace. In situations like this, it is extremely important for both parties to stand their ground. You should also have confidence in your mediator and know that they are trained to be a neutral facilitator that will not side with either party regardless of gender.

MEDIATION MYTH #2

In Mediation, One Spouse Can Intimidate the Other

Mediation is an opportunity for the mediator to educate both spouses on the issues, which is also empowering. One of the biggest advantages to divorce mediation is that the two individuals learn to communicate post-divorce.

Therefore, mediation is not about one person overpowering the other; it's about both spouses having an equal say. Again, have confidence that your mediator will keep things fair and neutral.

MEDIATION MYTH #3

It's Only for Couples That Want to Get Back Together

Divorce mediation is not counseling; it facilitates communication and allows you to get divorced and move on with your life. If one spouse goes into a mediation hoping for reconciliation, the mediator is likely to work with that spouse on making decisions as a single person.

MEDIATION MYTH #4

Mediation is Impossible if You Aren't Speaking to One Another

It is a fact that the majority of couples going through a divorce are not communicating well with one another. For this reason, a mediator has been trained in alternative dispute resolutions and knows how to work with two people at odds. We will implement the skills that we have learned and will do our very best to get the most out of all communication. But remember, you and your spouse not speaking will cause our process to be slower and thus taking more time to resolve issues. No communication mediation can be done but its not recommended especially when children are involved.  

MEDIATION MYTH #5

Mediation is Only for People That Are Already Divorced

Mediation is a legal tool that can be used in almost any type of case. That means a couple can go through mediation before, during, and after marriage. The result is a voluntary settlement and a chance for couples to guarantee that they have more say in the outcomes instead of leave their uncertain future in the hands of a judge.

MEDIATION MYTH #6

You Can Settle a Case With Just Your Lawyer

It's true; you can settle your divorce with your two attorneys or with a judge. However, mediation may be less costly in the end and is settled in a truly "best interest" manner. After you and your spouse come to an agreement, your lawyer will still be able to review the document and ensure your interests are covered if you choose.

MEDIATION MYTH #7

Complex Divorces Have to Go Through the Court

Despite what you may think, any divorce that could be heard in court can be mediated. Even the most complicated financial issues can be worked out with a mediator getting the same results as with an attorney but paying far less!

MEDIATION MYTH #8

The Mediator will force me to agree to something I don’t want to do

Getting couples to an agreement is the goal of every Mediator but our goal can not be reached if you are not satisfied with the outcome. Mediation is a voluntary procedure. Just remember, the mediation process is your low cost alternative to attorney’s and consultant’s